Courage: A word that has so much depth when it comes to its meaning.
This description suits it perfectly for today’s post: ‘Strength in the face of Pain or Grief ‘ . We ladies find it super hard to muster courage to make that decision that will give us so much peace and create room to actually meet the right person that God has for us who will not only Love us genuinely but will Honour us and treat us with the respect we deserve. Never let someone you are dating continue to disrespect you.
Ladies, you must always set standards for yourselves as to the kind of man you desire to spend the rest of your life with because by so doing, when you meet someone and his actions are contrary to your desires, my dear sister go back to God in prayer and ask Him to take that person out of your life. Consider this: God always gives the red light when He realizes we’re walking the wrong path, but our selfish desires make us cling to the scarring relationships we’re in, we then gradually sink into the rabbit hole, pushing away the all-knowing Voice out of our heads and hearts.
Courage, according to a friend, is what teaches us and tells us that ‘We have to let go of what’s hurting us even if it’s hurting us to let go.’ I know how it feels to let go of something or someone you dearly care for. It deeply hurts, but it’s preferable to rather go through that hurt and heal than hold on to it and continue hurting and I’m sure you all will agree that it can lead to trauma and suicidal thoughts.
A wise mother once told me that ‘A strong woman will automatically stop trying if she feels unwanted. She won’t fix it or beg, she’ll just walk away.’ When a person no longer serves his or her purpose in your life, don’t hold on to them but rather walk away for your self-respect and sanity. She also told me that ‘If you don’t get the wrong people out of your life, you will never meet the right people.’ I totally agree with all this motherly advice and will like to use this platform to say thank you to her for being a source of strength and inspiration.
Why keep the wrong people when we sure know their company means us no good but harm? Ladies, let’s be Smart, Strong and Supportive of one another. God gave us so much Power that we can manipulate it to serve us good things. Don’t let a man determine your happiness(that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be submissive to your partner, especially those who are married or in a relationship extremely close to tying the Knot). Let’s embrace the idea of letting go of the wrong people. Don’t concentrate on the sacrifices made in that relationship thereby making it impossible or too hard for you to let it go!
While i was having a quite study time of His wors today, I came across a scripture in Psalm 27:14 that says ‘Wait on the Lord: be of good courage, and He shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the Lord.’ If He, the ultimate God, can tell us humans to wait on Him and have courage, don’t you think and know it’s because when He tells you wait and you hearken to His words He will give you the very best and you will not have to worry yourself about what your partner may be up to when he is not around you. If we humans do not learn the art of patience concerning God’s plans for our lives, we will keep on repeating the same mistakes and we will go on asking Him ‘God why?’ when it’s not even Him who is at fault but our impatience, ignorance to His devices and not fully trusting on Him in our time of singleness so His perfect will would be done.
So my final advice as i draw the curtains on my relationship experience is ‘Don’t worry if those you love so much leave you. Don’t lose sleep when those you fought for start to ignore you. God has a purpose for everything. If one door closes surely another door will open.’